Grief, Compassion, and Love

Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life's search for love and wisdom. -Rumi

Today my husband flew up to visit his brother who is at home receiving hospice care for advanced lung cancer which has aggressively metastasized. This post serves as a prayer for my husband, his brother, and the rest of their family. I’m at a loss for words.

This is also my second Writer’s Quote Wednesday 2015 post. Thank you Colleen Chesebro at for organizing Writer’s Quote Wednesday 2015.

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49 responses to “Grief, Compassion, and Love”

  1. […] and pray that I am able to emotionally support my husband as he experiences grief, having lost his oldest brother last week to lung cancer. Grief, anxiety, and the fear of loss is what prompted me to begin […]

  2. I understand. Well I hope it is quick and peaceful. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. xxx

  3. I don’t think the family wants more people in the house.

  4. That’s all they did?? The Houston Hospice has volunteers and staff that goes in the home and takes care of the person and helps the family cope. I’m so sorry they are not doing that for your brother-in-law! Is there another hospice service in your area? This is what the Houston Hospice says on their site:

  5. Thank you, but he’s receiving hospice care at home. In fact, the hospice worker simply left a package at their door rather than bother the family.

  6. Hi Kitt, I know just where you and your husband are coming from. My brother, Paul, had small cell lung cancer which metastasized to his liver and brain. In November of 2012 he entered into hospice. They gave him morphine which isn’t just used for pain, it also helps with breathing problems. I asked Paul if he was comfortable, and said he felt perfect. So please know that he is probably quite comfortable.

    My mother also died in hospice on January 31, 2004 after 6 days and went peacefully. My brother, Paul, was only 57 and died on December 4, 2012 after having been in hospice for only 10 days. It’s already been over 2 years since he died. This will be over soon for y’all and so will the suffering. Then comes the grieving. Time will pass and you will heal.

    Yes, hospice is very spiritual! The folks there were glowing, positive, and comforting as if they knew something the rest of us do not. It’s where folks go to transition, or whatever a person’s beliefs may be.

    Kitt, I wish you and your husband lots of peace and comfort right now. And please be assured that, judging on my experiences with my mom and my brother, your brother-in-law is being well taken care of and is probably not suffering.

    Wishing you the best. xxx

  7. Thank you for your prayer. So much.

  8. Thank you, Vic. Yes, we never know when it will end.

  9. Thank you so much for your prayer. Greatly appreciated.

  10. I pray for peace and comfort for you and your family during this difficult time.

  11. Oh that is so terribly heart breaking 🙁

  12. I love Rumi. Prayers to you all.

  13. Sending best wishes to your husband and his brother (and you too Kitt). Life is short, live & love while you can!

  14. Such a sad time for your husband and his brother and all family. May God see them though this, with His presence…. Prayer offered on their behalf… Diane

  15. Sending loving thoughts to all your family.

  16. Thank you, Tanja. I am so sorry that you lost your father so recently to pancreatic cancer.

  17. Thank you for your prayer and for the hugs.

  18. Thank you, and yes it is tragic, for my brother-in-law is still in his 50s.

  19. I am really sorry for your brother in law, I do pray for his minimal suffering and for all your family. I lost my dad last September, it was pancreatic cancer what took him away, so I truly empathise with you and your husbands family. It’s very good that he has hospice care, there are no places like that over here, no oncological palliative care in Belgrade so me and my mom took the 24 hour care the best we knew and could – that’s horribly hard especially because he would have been much more at ease with IV meds and nutrition we couldn’t provide, and we would have had help. Hang in there, it takes tremendous strength to deal with such hard times. Hugs, Tanja

  20. I pray that you and your family find the strength in each other and in your faith to find solace in your sorrow. Big hugs Kitt.

  21. So sorry for what your family is going through. It is always so hard to deal with someones end of life 🙁

  22. No need for thanks…that’s why I’m here 🙂

  23. I’m so sorry. Life is cruel sometimes, especially when loved ones suffer. Sending you, your husband, brother-in-law and family a soft tail wag and a very quiet Woof.

  24. Thank you so much, John, for your prayer. I greatly appreciate it.

  25. Thank you very much.

  26. Thank you, Colleen. Prayers are always welcome.

  27. Thank you. Sending the same back to you.

  28. You and your family will be in my prayers.

  29. My thoughts are with you all…

  30. I came to thank you for following my blog and want to offer a prayer for your brother -in -law

  31. Hugs, prayers and blessings to you all!! Hospice care is wonderful especially for a disease such as lung cancer. xx ellen

  32. breakdownchick Avatar

    I lost my mom to cancer. My thoughts & prayers are with you. <3

  33. Many prayers and hugs to you and your family Kitt. I have you all in my thoughts. ???

  34. Sending lots of prayers and hugs to you and your family. Hospice definitely is a great service and organization. My mom worked with them for many years and many of my family members were cared for by them. Sorry to hear about your brother-in-law.

  35. Thank you, Laura. Prayers welcome. Hospice is an important, difficult, and very spiritual time regardless of one’s beliefs.

  36. Just wanted to send my love to you, your husband, his brother and the whole family.

  37. Me as well…sending you all love & light ?

  38. I’m so sorry to hear about your brother-in-law, Kitt. Sending up prayers for all of you in the family during this difficult time.

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