Today my husband flew up to visit his brother who is at home receiving hospice care for advanced lung cancer which has aggressively metastasized. This post serves as a prayer for my husband, his brother, and the rest of their family. I’m at a loss for words.
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Hi Kitt, I know just where you and your husband are coming from. My brother, Paul, had small cell lung cancer which metastasized to his liver and brain. In November of 2012 he entered into hospice. They gave him morphine which isn’t just used for pain, it also helps with breathing problems. I asked Paul if he was comfortable, and said he felt perfect. So please know that he is probably quite comfortable.
My mother also died in hospice on January 31, 2004 after 6 days and went peacefully. My brother, Paul, was only 57 and died on December 4, 2012 after having been in hospice for only 10 days. It’s already been over 2 years since he died. This will be over soon for y’all and so will the suffering. Then comes the grieving. Time will pass and you will heal.
Yes, hospice is very spiritual! The folks there were glowing, positive, and comforting as if they knew something the rest of us do not. It’s where folks go to transition, or whatever a person’s beliefs may be.
Kitt, I wish you and your husband lots of peace and comfort right now. And please be assured that, judging on my experiences with my mom and my brother, your brother-in-law is being well taken care of and is probably not suffering.
Wishing you the best. xxx
Thank you, but he’s receiving hospice care at home. In fact, the hospice worker simply left a package at their door rather than bother the family.
That’s all they did?? The Houston Hospice has volunteers and staff that goes in the home and takes care of the person and helps the family cope. I’m so sorry they are not doing that for your brother-in-law! Is there another hospice service in your area? This is what the Houston Hospice says on their site: http://bit.ly/1M1JlDe
I don’t think the family wants more people in the house.
I understand. Well I hope it is quick and peaceful. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. xxx