Grieving, Not Writing

My mother died last month. My sister hosted a lovely family memorial for her this past weekend. I put together a slideshow, for which my uncle, my mother’s brother, related stories of their childhood.

Now, my mind is mush. Grief mind. I do easy crosswords. My mother was an excellent crossword puzzler, unlike me, she could use a pen when filling in words.

Now she rests in peace and love with our father. They loved each other deeply.

Slide containing beauty shot of my mother and couples shot of my parents
My mother, a true beauty, and my parents, may they Rest In Peace together again


47 responses to “Grieving, Not Writing”

  1. Honestly, I’m relieved. I hope that they are together in a better place.

  2. I am sorry for your big losses since we were last in contact. It is huge. But caretaking is so hard, too. I lost my parents years ago and then my brother. And my mother-in-law whom I was very close to. Are you healed from the loss? One never truly heals totally. I remember you were having a really hard time taking care of them. We did, too. Thank the Lord for my husband.


  4. Thank you. My prayers are with you and your loved ones.

  5. […] post, I fear that I come off as self-centered, concerned more with my physical health than grieving my mother’s death. Perhaps that’s denial. It’s hard to properly grieve when dealing with health issues […]

  6. I am sorry for your loss….
    My prayers are with you!

  7. Thank you, Bella.

  8. Thank you, Jay. God bless you.

  9. Thank you for your prayers. Yes, she’s joined our father (both our earthly father and our heavenly Father) in heaven.

  10. Yes, the firsts are tough. Thank you.

  11. Thank you, Bennie. Yes, I’m taking care of myself.

  12. I’m truly sorry. The pictures are beautiful. And heart breaking. Take good care of yourself.

  13. I’m so sorry, Kitt. I’ve been away from my blog for quite some time, so I’m just now seeing this. It’s so hard to lose such an important figure in your life. I don’t know if you’ve experienced this sort of loss before, but don’t let anyone rush your grieving process. The whole first year is painful – all those first holidays, first birthdays, first anniversaries without your loved one – but it does get easier. Never goes away entirely, but gets manageable.

  14. I’m sure she is happy enjoying her stay with our Lord, though it’s so grieving to see someone you love so much. Stay strong, keep her in your prayers. God bless.

  15. I’m so sorry for your loss Kitt. I hope you and your family are well, and I’m sure your parents were wonderful people. ❤️?

  16. Bella Sasa Tati Avatar
    Bella Sasa Tati

    So sorry for your loss Kitt, may she rest in peace. May you and your family be comforted ??

  17. I’m sorry for your loss, Kitt. I’ve missed your posts. May the LORD be your comforter.

  18. I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your precious mother, Kitt. Take the time to grieve, you will emerge with heartfelt words to describe this time in your life, and of your mother, that will beautifully memorialize her.

  19. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

  20. I’m so sorry that you lost your youngest brother yesterday. Love and hugs to you, too.

  21. That it does. They loved one another very much.

  22. Thank you for holding us in your prayers.

  23. Love you, too, Dy! Mush brain sucks.

  24. Thank you so much.

  25. I’m starting with easy crosswords to jog my numbed brain.

  26. Thank you for your virtual hugs.

  27. Thank you so much.

  28. Thank you and God bless you. They loved one another dearly.

  29. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your dear mother. I’m sure she’s in heaven with your Dad, looking down on you with pure love. May our Lord comfort you in your sadness.

    “Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May she Rest In Peace.”

  30. So sorry for your loss. Wishing you all the best for this hard time.

  31. So sorry for your loss! May your mother rest in peace.

  32. Cathy Mcneil Avatar
    Cathy Mcneil

    May your dear mom Rest In Peace and May you take comfort with the loving memories you have.
    Cathy McNeil

  33. I’m very sorry for your loss. My mom died a couple of months ago, and I haven’t been able to write. She also loved crossword puzzles. It’s hard to get back into that headspace. Sending lots of love.

  34. Sorry for your the loss of your mother Kitt. Hugs.

  35. Sorry for your loss, Kitt. Sending extra love and light to help you navigate the coming days and weeks. Here if you need me.

  36. Such beautiful parents, Kitt!!! I am glad they are together again, watching over you and the rest of your family. And how moving that you put together that slideshow…especially when you have mush mind caused by grief. Please take extra-good care of yourself

    Love you!

  37. I’m so sorry to hear of your devastating loss, Kitt. Grief can be compounded by additional deaths, as you’re experienced first hand. I offer you and your family my condolences, and will keep you in my prayers.

  38. I’m so sorry for your loss Kitt. Remembering them both and that they are together again should put a smile on your face in the darker times.
    Huge Hugs

  39. Kitt, so sorry for your loss. Mother has been gone five years and dad nearly ten. We lost our yiungest brother yesterday. I share your pain. And my mind is numb as well. Love and hugs from afar

  40. C. L. Dunbar Avatar
    C. L. Dunbar

    I’m so sorry! Thinking of you and sending healing thoughts and prayers your way!

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